They say people write to help themselves work through something. I write because it helps my brain organize my mess of thoughts and sometimes something useful comes out! The following article about my dilemma with Competition is no exception.
Weirdly no one writes about how to move across the country in 2 weeks!
Recently, my fiancé accepted a new job…on the other side of the country. Like all good corporate America positions, there was a lot of back and forth and no set start date. So instead of going nuts looking for places and packing our home – we waited to hear if he actually got the job. When they called to tell him he was in, they asked if two weeks were enough… Being the crazy guy that he is, my fiancé agreed to start in 14 days. (Let’s be honest, I don’t think he fully thought it through that he was actually agreeing to move over 1000 miles in 14 days.)
So the madness began. I learned a lot within the 2 weeks and spent A LOT of money. Should you ever find yourself in the position where you have to move across the country in two weeks, I have some tips for you.
Last week, two executives came to the visit the office I work in. They both work out of our headquarters office in New York. The executives flew in for the week to share their experience at the company and share their point of view with where the business is headed. During their time in our office, I had several meetings with the younger female executive.
She had come to share with the other women how she had become so successful in a short amount of time.
We all know that if you work too hard or too long – there will be things you are sacrificing like family/friend time or sleep. We know that if you have no work-life balance, you eventually won’t be too happy. But what people don’t talk about is if you’re working too hard and you’re too good at your job.
Here’s a list of four overlooked annoyances that no one tells you will happen when you’re working too hard.
Something that has been eating me alive for quite some time is my inability to get a job out of state. Moving out of the midwest has been a goal for mine for years but for some reason, I keep missing my goal.
To me, this feels like a HUGE failure. The plan was to live in our current town for two years (we’re at three) and then move out east or west for two years.
I have tried a variety of tactics ranging from taking my address off of my resume, putting down a relocating date, revisiting and revamping my resume frequently, catering each resume and cover letter to the specific job, reaching out to recruiters on LinkedIn and blindly applying for any job.
With my type A personality I tend to get wound up and frustrated by the lack of success I’ve had in this goal of mine. Sometimes I debate giving in. Maybe I should just buy a house here, settle down in this depressing town for the time being and put this goal off to “someday.” This sounds very enticing to me because I’m sick of feeling rejected but I know in my gut – it’s not the right move to make. I know down the road, I’ll be more upset with myself that I let frequent disappointment stop me from my goal.
Here’s a list of four things I’ve found have helped me keep on keeping on.
You made it. Graduation day is here!
This is the moment you have been waiting for – the moment you have been working towards. You have graduated!
If you’re anything like me – it only took you five short years and multiple majors.
The graduation part – was a lot different than I had imagined. I thought I would be so relieved and ecstatic but instead I felt overwhelmed and depressed.
That’s right. You do not need to have a passion. Repeat after me – I don’t need a passion.
How do you feel? Lighter, at ease, maybe even happier. I know I do. Taking the pressure off yourself to find your passion feels incredible!
The other day I learned the term, “Imposter Syndrome,” and I couldn’t believe I’ve never heard of it before! It describes how I feel about my life and myself a majority of the time.
When I first started college I was majoring in architecture. I had been told that the architecture program was extremely difficult to get into. So naturally, I worked hard and really tried to succeed. But shorty after getting accepted into the program (when not all of my friends had) I thought, “Did I miss something? Did I somehow cheat through it – it’s because I’m a girl… they had to up their female quota.”
I don’t know about you – but staying motivated after work is hard to do. Starting off the morning I had such big hopes for my day and expectations. However, the day usually ends with crappy TV shows and mindless eating! Come the end of the day – I feel like I’ve accomplished nothing. (Sometimes it doesn’t even matter how much I’ve crossed off of my list. I always feel like it’s not enough… Anyone else feel like that?)
If you struggle with motivation after work – you’re not alone. When it comes to my evening time management skills – I often suck.
Sooooo, after doing some research I found various tips could help.