Ask yourself these two questions: Have I ever failed at something? Have I ever let myself be defeated?
My guess is, that you’ve failed at something before – maybe multiple somethings but you probably haven’t let it defeat you. We see it all the time that defeat or giving up isn’t in our vocabulary or that we’re supposed to get back on the horse.
I don’t think failure is something anyone ever gets used to but for me, it was oddly foreign until college. Yeah it’s true I sucked at all things sports but when it came to academics I did well. Sure, in college I earned a D once and had to retake a class but for some reason that didn’t bother me too much. It was embarrassing but it was a 400 level college course and I struggled to understand the teacher. I was studying for my bachelors in math and math education.
Last week, two executives came to the visit the office I work in. They both work out of our headquarters office in New York. The executives flew in for the week to share their experience at the company and share their point of view with where the business is headed. During their time in our office, I had several meetings with the younger female executive.
She had come to share with the other women how she had become so successful in a short amount of time.
A life goal of mine has always been to be able to afford a pair of Christian Louboutin’s sexy heels. Like, I could save money and buy a pair but being able to AFFORD a pair is different.
With my life goal in mind, Pearl and I watched a short documentary about Louboutin on Netflix and wow! I had no idea how much went into making a pair of these stunning shoes. I’m not talking about the materials and the man hours. I’m talking about the thought process behind the designs and the business model.
We all know that if you work too hard or too long – there will be things you are sacrificing like family/friend time or sleep. We know that if you have no work-life balance, you eventually won’t be too happy. But what people don’t talk about is if you’re working too hard and you’re too good at your job.
Here’s a list of four overlooked annoyances that no one tells you will happen when you’re working too hard.
Something that has been eating me alive for quite some time is my inability to get a job out of state. Moving out of the midwest has been a goal for mine for years but for some reason, I keep missing my goal.
To me, this feels like a HUGE failure. The plan was to live in our current town for two years (we’re at three) and then move out east or west for two years.
I have tried a variety of tactics ranging from taking my address off of my resume, putting down a relocating date, revisiting and revamping my resume frequently, catering each resume and cover letter to the specific job, reaching out to recruiters on LinkedIn and blindly applying for any job.
With my type A personality I tend to get wound up and frustrated by the lack of success I’ve had in this goal of mine. Sometimes I debate giving in. Maybe I should just buy a house here, settle down in this depressing town for the time being and put this goal off to “someday.” This sounds very enticing to me because I’m sick of feeling rejected but I know in my gut – it’s not the right move to make. I know down the road, I’ll be more upset with myself that I let frequent disappointment stop me from my goal.
Here’s a list of four things I’ve found have helped me keep on keeping on.
So you graduate and are making $45,000 a year – feeling like a big shot. Or not, because 25% of your monthly income is going to rent and 20% to student loans. After you pay for gas and food – you have about $100 that should probably going to some savings account but that’s boring.
I was talking to my grandma about money and she said to me, “Well, do you have a budget? It worked for us and maybe you want to try it.” What kinda silly, simple question is that? Do I have a budget?! I don’t need that – it’s 2018 my online bank tracks that stuff!
That’s right. You do not need to have a passion. Repeat after me – I don’t need a passion.
How do you feel? Lighter, at ease, maybe even happier. I know I do. Taking the pressure off yourself to find your passion feels incredible!
The other day I learned the term, “Imposter Syndrome,” and I couldn’t believe I’ve never heard of it before! It describes how I feel about my life and myself a majority of the time.
When I first started college I was majoring in architecture. I had been told that the architecture program was extremely difficult to get into. So naturally, I worked hard and really tried to succeed. But shorty after getting accepted into the program (when not all of my friends had) I thought, “Did I miss something? Did I somehow cheat through it – it’s because I’m a girl… they had to up their female quota.”
I don’t know about you – but staying motivated after work is hard to do. Starting off the morning I had such big hopes for my day and expectations. However, the day usually ends with crappy TV shows and mindless eating! Come the end of the day – I feel like I’ve accomplished nothing. (Sometimes it doesn’t even matter how much I’ve crossed off of my list. I always feel like it’s not enough… Anyone else feel like that?)
If you struggle with motivation after work – you’re not alone. When it comes to my evening time management skills – I often suck.
Sooooo, after doing some research I found various tips could help.