Dear 15-Year-Old Self,
Your hair looks great. Your clothes are cute. You look good! You’ll look back at this time and go, “Wow, I’m glad I didn’t dress like the other girls. I’m kinda proud I wore my brother’s old t-shirts and rocked the tomboy look hard.”
They say people write to help themselves work through something. I write because it helps my brain organize my mess of thoughts and sometimes something useful comes out! The following article about my dilemma with Competition is no exception.
Have you ever been around people who make you feel like an alien or like you maybe have 5 heads? Sure! Everyone has gotten that vibe before. What if you have to CONSTANTLY be around critical individuals? What do you do then? Well over the last 5 years, I’ve had A LOT of experience with it.
Ask yourself these two questions: Have I ever failed at something? Have I ever let myself be defeated?
My guess is, that you’ve failed at something before – maybe multiple somethings but you probably haven’t let it defeat you. We see it all the time that defeat or giving up isn’t in our vocabulary or that we’re supposed to get back on the horse.
I don’t think failure is something anyone ever gets used to but for me, it was oddly foreign until college. Yeah it’s true I sucked at all things sports but when it came to academics I did well. Sure, in college I earned a D once and had to retake a class but for some reason that didn’t bother me too much. It was embarrassing but it was a 400 level college course and I struggled to understand the teacher. I was studying for my bachelors in math and math education.
I’m all about myself. No, really – anything from self-help, self-care, self-love, self-improvement, treat-yo-self self — I love to learn about it. So it makes sense I’d be obsessed with the personality test!
Strangely, I took a class in high school where we took the personality quiz and I still remembered my results. (I remembered that no one else in the class had my personality type so I changed it so I’d fit in. But I don’t think anyone was buying that I was an extrovert!) So a few weeks ago, I thought I’d take it again and see if my results changed over the last nine years.
We all know that if you work too hard or too long – there will be things you are sacrificing like family/friend time or sleep. We know that if you have no work-life balance, you eventually won’t be too happy. But what people don’t talk about is if you’re working too hard and you’re too good at your job.
Here’s a list of four overlooked annoyances that no one tells you will happen when you’re working too hard.
As a vegetarian, I get a lot of odd questions but the most common question I get (and probably the least odd) is “Where do you get your protein?”
One of the main things I love about being a vegetarian is that it makes me think about the food I’m eating. Before becoming a vegetarian I would go out to restaurants and order the same thing. I would mindlessly eat whatever and didn’t put thought into what I was consuming. However, you can’t really do that as a vegetarian or your body will become weak and you’ll be unhealthy.
So here’s a list of my main sources of protein:
Something that has been eating me alive for quite some time is my inability to get a job out of state. Moving out of the midwest has been a goal for mine for years but for some reason, I keep missing my goal.
To me, this feels like a HUGE failure. The plan was to live in our current town for two years (we’re at three) and then move out east or west for two years.
I have tried a variety of tactics ranging from taking my address off of my resume, putting down a relocating date, revisiting and revamping my resume frequently, catering each resume and cover letter to the specific job, reaching out to recruiters on LinkedIn and blindly applying for any job.
With my type A personality I tend to get wound up and frustrated by the lack of success I’ve had in this goal of mine. Sometimes I debate giving in. Maybe I should just buy a house here, settle down in this depressing town for the time being and put this goal off to “someday.” This sounds very enticing to me because I’m sick of feeling rejected but I know in my gut – it’s not the right move to make. I know down the road, I’ll be more upset with myself that I let frequent disappointment stop me from my goal.
Here’s a list of four things I’ve found have helped me keep on keeping on.
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. – Anonymous
Today, I threw a pen and punched my desk. I pounded on my keyboard and slammed my office phone down. I’ve NEVER been like this. I’ve never thrown an adult tantrum! I’ve always been able to remain calm and find another outlet for my anger. But lately, it’s been bad.
The following book changed my life. My entire perspective of the world changed. People look different, social pressure is understood and being yourself is acceptable. It’s a must-read for any introvert.
I wish I had read this book years ago!
I wish I had read it before taking education courses and I wish I had read it before being a teacher.
I wish I had read it before joining the work force and I wish all employers had read it.