Dear 15-Year-Old Self,
Your hair looks great. Your clothes are cute. You look good! You’ll look back at this time and go, “Wow, I’m glad I didn’t dress like the other girls. I’m kinda proud I wore my brother’s old t-shirts and rocked the tomboy look hard.”
We all know that one rodent that gets into your yard no matter how hard you try to keep it out. Ya know that one that sneaks through the tiniest of holes in the fence and hides out in the tall grass while you’re peacefully sunbathing on the patio.
They say people write to help themselves work through something. I write because it helps my brain organize my mess of thoughts and sometimes something useful comes out! The following article about my dilemma with Competition is no exception.
Have you ever been around people who make you feel like an alien or like you maybe have 5 heads? Sure! Everyone has gotten that vibe before. What if you have to CONSTANTLY be around critical individuals? What do you do then? Well over the last 5 years, I’ve had A LOT of experience with it.
Ask yourself these two questions: Have I ever failed at something? Have I ever let myself be defeated?
My guess is, that you’ve failed at something before – maybe multiple somethings but you probably haven’t let it defeat you. We see it all the time that defeat or giving up isn’t in our vocabulary or that we’re supposed to get back on the horse.
I don’t think failure is something anyone ever gets used to but for me, it was oddly foreign until college. Yeah it’s true I sucked at all things sports but when it came to academics I did well. Sure, in college I earned a D once and had to retake a class but for some reason that didn’t bother me too much. It was embarrassing but it was a 400 level college course and I struggled to understand the teacher. I was studying for my bachelors in math and math education.
Weirdly no one writes about how to move across the country in 2 weeks!
Recently, my fiancé accepted a new job…on the other side of the country. Like all good corporate America positions, there was a lot of back and forth and no set start date. So instead of going nuts looking for places and packing our home – we waited to hear if he actually got the job. When they called to tell him he was in, they asked if two weeks were enough… Being the crazy guy that he is, my fiancé agreed to start in 14 days. (Let’s be honest, I don’t think he fully thought it through that he was actually agreeing to move over 1000 miles in 14 days.)
So the madness began. I learned a lot within the 2 weeks and spent A LOT of money. Should you ever find yourself in the position where you have to move across the country in two weeks, I have some tips for you.
I’m all about myself. No, really – anything from self-help, self-care, self-love, self-improvement, treat-yo-self self — I love to learn about it. So it makes sense I’d be obsessed with the personality test!
Strangely, I took a class in high school where we took the personality quiz and I still remembered my results. (I remembered that no one else in the class had my personality type so I changed it so I’d fit in. But I don’t think anyone was buying that I was an extrovert!) So a few weeks ago, I thought I’d take it again and see if my results changed over the last nine years.
I didn’t realize as soon as I turned 24 that my summers would rotate around friends weddings. I’m 26 now and the wedding invites show no sign of stopping. Last year, Tom and I went to 5 weddings and this year we were invited to 6! I’m all about having a party but sometimes the hair, the makeup, the heels, the gifts, the travel, the church, the ceremony, the days off work, the small talk, the ravioli (any other vegetarians only get served ravioli at weddings?) and the cost of lodging gets to be a bit much. But at this point, I’ve basically mastered how to be a perfect wedding guest and I’m a lot less stressed when I see the invites roll in.
Here are a few things I’ve found that have helped me stay sane through the wedding madness.
Last week, two executives came to the visit the office I work in. They both work out of our headquarters office in New York. The executives flew in for the week to share their experience at the company and share their point of view with where the business is headed. During their time in our office, I had several meetings with the younger female executive.
She had come to share with the other women how she had become so successful in a short amount of time.
A life goal of mine has always been to be able to afford a pair of Christian Louboutin’s sexy heels. Like, I could save money and buy a pair but being able to AFFORD a pair is different.
With my life goal in mind, Pearl and I watched a short documentary about Louboutin on Netflix and wow! I had no idea how much went into making a pair of these stunning shoes. I’m not talking about the materials and the man hours. I’m talking about the thought process behind the designs and the business model.